I’ve been watching the show ‘Sons of Anarchy’ and a monologue by the character Jax caught my attention… it’s a reflection directed towards his 2 young boys.
It began by describing the ‘state of flow’ he experiences when riding a motorcycle…
“Something happens at around 92 miles an hour – thunder-headers drown out all sound, engine vibrations travels at a heart’s rate, field of vision funnels into the immediate and suddenly you’re not on the road, you’re in it. A part of it. Traffic, scenery, cops – just cardboard cutouts blowing over as you past. Sometimes I forget the rush of that. That’s why I love these long runs. All your problems, all the noise, gone. Nothing else to worry about except what’s right in front of you.”
But then he began to reflect on how he can embrace these moments of flow… to be more conscious of them and the impact it can have on his life as a whole…
“Maybe that’s the lesson for me today, to hold on to these simple moments. Appreciate them a little more – there’s not many of them left.”
He goes deeper…
“I don’t ever want that for you. Finding things that make you happy shouldn’t be so hard. I know you’ll face pain, suffering, hard choices, but you can’t let the weight of it choke the joy out of your life. No matter what, you have to find the things that love you. Run to them. There’s an old saying, ‘That what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger’ I don’t believe that. I think the things that try to kill you make you angry and sad. Strength comes from the good things – your family, your friends, the satisfaction of hard work. Those are the things that’ll keep you whole. Those are the things to hold on to when you’re broken.”
He taps into another way to find happiness… he talks about appreciating the simple moments… to appreciate all the good things in our lives… to appreciate the love.
I had never given much thought to someone disagreeing with the saying… ‘That what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger’. His reasoning seemed to be that strength comes from the good things in your life and not from suffering. I believe it comes from both. If you let your suffering make you “angry and sad” then it weakens you… “you can’t let the weight of it choke the joy out of your life.” The challenge is to fight against it breaking your spirit.
If you can embrace hope you can turn your suffering into something positive, it can be a source of strength… it can give you profound insight and empathy. It can be a gift to others. But one needs to find a way to hold on to hope… to hold on to joy… to hold on to love. That’s the challenge!
Okay… enough of my musing. I’m going back to watching these idiots ride motorcycles and kill each other. It’s a pretty twisted show… and I’m finding it to be very entertaining.